Parents of teenagers: If your teen told you that he or she is saving his or her virginity then would you?

believe them? Or would you get them on birth control (e.g. condoms, depo shot or pills) anyway because teenagers can't be trusted with their raging hormones. What would you do? Get them on birth control anyway.Parents of teenagers: If your teen told you that he or she is saving his or her virginity then would you?
I know you were asking parents of teenagers. But I am a teenager myself, who has told my mother that I am saving myself and am a firm believer in abstinence, as is my boyfriend. My mother accepted it and told me that if I ever change my mind to let her know and she will get birth-control. But she made sure to make it clear that she is not in favor of me being sexually active and is proud of me for where I stand in the situation. I'm 16 if that matters, my boyfriend is 17.Parents of teenagers: If your teen told you that he or she is saving his or her virginity then would you?
No - I'd tell them I was proud of them no matter when they chose and would encourage them to come to me if they changed their mind so as her parent you could be sure she was safe and taking adult action.





If you put her on b/c, you're telling her you don't believe her and don't trust in her at all. What if she's telling you the truth? How hurtful would that be? The damage you'll do to the trust in your relationship will be irreparable.





Keep the door open - talk to her - let her know you'll never judge her and hope for the best. Unless there's a specific reason NOT to trust her, you have no right to assume she's lying to you.
of course i'd believe them. no, i wouldn't ';get them birth control anyway';i don't believe in putting my child on birth control unless it's something they inquired about and i believe they're mature enough for it.
I believe my son...I think we've taught him well and he knows the consequences
1st of all you should be proud those words even came out of your kids mouth. NOt every parent hears that!





Ok...now you want to make sure your child is safe. I personally wouldn't give them birth control unless they are actually reconsidering their plans. what I am saying is trust your child and what they say. Don't just assume that their hormones will be stronger than their judgement. Teens are like this yes, but not all!. HAve faith in your childs judgement and keep that relationship open for him/her to come to you if anything changes.





As far as the shots are concerned, regardless of whether or not they are already active, you should definately consider preventative medications like gardisil while they are still youhg.





You SHOULD STILL educate your child about sex, its effects on them emotionally, physically, mentally, and most importantly, their health! Meaning, you should still show him/her the proper use of a condom and other birth control methods and educate them about STIs and STDs.





Let them know you trust in them and encourage them to talk to you about it no matter what. Make sure they understand that no matter what happens in the future you will never stop loving them. This little show of understanding will help them to open up to you when they do decide to lose their virginity and you will be proud to know that you made sure they KNEW how to be safe.





Good luck...I'm 24 and wish that my parents had spoken to me about it. Maybe then, I would have never went in blindsighted at the age of 15 and lost my virginity and now dealing with cervical cancer. And even with this cancer thing and my age...I don't feel comfortable telling them [my parent] about it :-(





Talk to your teen. Understand what they are going thru. Be there for him/her.